Despite setbacks here’s how to keep on the positive path and keep the belief (that you can fall pregnant and be a Mum)
We live in a society where people are increasingly defined as a sum of the level of success they achieve, in both their career and personal life. For many a key element in their life plan is to start a family with the perfect, loving partner and, that by and large having a baby is an event that will just happen naturally.
The stark reality is that one in seven couples in the UK suffers with infertility. Going through the monthly cycle has been described as a rollercoaster ride. The highs being the excitement that there might be a chance you are pregnant, followed by the absolute devastation that you are not… Or that you have miscarried.
So what can you do to ease those setbacks and keep believing that you will be a parent one day? (Be it first or second time around).
There is no absolute prescriptive formula that works for everyone
In addition, approaching any difficulty in life, including issues around your mental and physical health, can be aided by developing a “tool box” of go to resources and reminders to call on. The following may help in developing your personalised tool box, which recognises the individual tools and elements that work better for you.
Get the basics right
Be knowledgeable about the basics of ovulation, conception and menstrual cycle
This will help with timing intercourse and providing you with a sense of control over the process of conception.
However, do not let this dominate your life or interfere with your sex life. Timings and temperature taking can dampen the flame of passion. Best thing to do is to have sex every three days to ensure the sperm is able to fertilise the egg whenever ovulation occurs.
1. Be aware of your diet for fertility
Keep it organic; avoid caffeine, alcohol, and processed foods and research supplements to take for improved fertility.
See these fertility food articles for more tips:
- What to Eat To Create Super Sperm
- What to Eat When Trying For a Baby
- Fertility Honey to Sweeten Your Fertility Journey
- Male Fertility Tips
- The Fertility Diet – Top 4 Fertility Inhibitors
- SuperFoods for Super Fast Fertility Facilitation
2. Do learn to relax
Find what will work for you, be it:
- Fertility Yoga & Fitness
- Meditations on mp3
- Group meditations
- Fertility retreats to help you unwind or just have an invigorating walk
3. Be patient
Even the healthiest of couples will find that it takes time to conceive. It’s not easy to avoid obsessing over every aspect of the conception process, so try to focus on other things you enjoy doing. For some this will be their work, others it will be a hobby or interest.
Do not stay patient forever… Turn patience into pro-activeness and take back control with these fertility tips
Natural Pregnancy Tips
#1 Make Loving Fun & Powerful
Keep your love life vibrant, use your imagination. Concentrate on creating a light and loving mood, where conception isn’t the sole purpose of sex.
Try making love in new locations – from a tent in your back garden, to a swanky hotel, whatever appeals to your sense of fun!
BE PRESENT and focus on the magic you are creating between you. I know this can be difficult when sex feels like a chore, but you will reap the rewards from being present and BOTH visualising the sperm fertilising the egg at the point of ejaculation.
#2 Shared Experience
Sharing your rollercoaster ride with others trying to conceive can be comforting.
You can get more active in the Fertility Help closed FaceBook group where you can share your experience with others and reach out for support.
You can check out sites like www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/ , www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/ and www.self-help.org.uk which have links to other resources you may find useful in your tool box.
- Awakening Fertility offer transformational shared experiences with Fertility Events where you can:
- join Fertility Yoga Classes
- enjoy Fertility Yoga and Fertility Qigong in the comfort of your home with your partner
- get informed with some inspirational online live Fertility Talks and Workshops
- re-treat yourself at the Spring and Summer Fertility Yoga Retreats
- We also provide Fertility Coaching so you can share your woes and feel supported and guided for positive change
#3 Take Time Out
If the whole conception routine is taking a toll on you and/or your partner, take time out.
- Learn to meditate – fertility meditation works. It will change your life for the better.
- Learn how to reconnect to what makes you happy – e.g. do three things a day that bring you joy.
- Learn to love all aspects of you, stop feeling disappointed that your body is letting you down.
- Learn to nurture yourself… A Fertility Foot Detox Ionic Spa Treatment is a great way to feel refreshed and revitalised, it eases pain and deeply detoxifies and heals.
(If you need any help with ways and suggestions you can take time out – leave a comment below or discretely contact us)
#4 Indulge and Nurture Yourself!
Even out the roller-coaster of emotions by treating yourself and each other. Whether it’s a manicure, a weekend away, signing up for that yoga course you always wanted to do, or something as simple as a “funny movie” night. Be good to yourself, you deserve it.
And finally I was recently reminded of this little gem from A A Milne:
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you know.”
~ Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh
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Related Topics Worth Reading:
- How to Stay Empowered Whilst Trying to Conceive – 3 Simple Steps – Read more
- Think Yourself Fertile – Read more
- Stop Overthinking Fertility – Stop Blocking Fertility – Read more
- Living a Fertile Lifestyle – Read/watch more
About the author:
Fiona Boulton is a Fertility Specialist
(An expert in her field since 2007) and leader in Fertility Mind Mastery, Fertility Meditation, Fertility Yoga and Fertility Coaching –
helping people take back control of their fertility, faster.
Fiona is the founder of Awakening Fertility – Harley Street (Harley Street Fertility Clinic), London; Concept Fertility Putney; Chichester, West Sussex and Perth, Australia
- Huffington Post Fertility Writer
- Fertility Coach
- Fertility Support Group Co-ordinator for Harley Street Fertility Clinic and Infertility Network UK
- Nutrition Counsellor
- Public Speaker
- QiYoga® Founder
- Fertility Yoga Teacher Trainer (RYS 200)
- Fertile Lifestyle Motivator
- Fertility Support Group Facilitator
- Fertility Practitioner Training Co-ordinator
Through Fiona’s “transformation guaranteed” Fertile Lifestyle courses, Fiona helps navigate major transitions to detox your mind and body to help you effectively ‘think yourself fertile’; to change the map your mind has of your body and therefore change your physiology by clearing mental and emotional blockages to having your baby. Fiona’s work focuses on you taking back control by changing the internal and external environment of your cells so you can improve chances of fertility success.
Book your fertility consultation from the comfort of your home or come to the Harley Street Fertility Clinic for a transformative session with Awakening Fertility founder Fiona Boulton, here.
This is my favourite article so far – thanks for the support Fiona
I find sometimes that when I’m unieatrcn about the next step in a process or even resisting change — oooh boy do I resist change! — things like this happen a lot. Not the path I would have chosen, but just what I needed anyhow. Congrats on your next step. <3
Thank you so much! This article came just at the right time. TTC can be a tough journey and I find your articles a huge help. Thanks again, this one really hit home for me.
Wow! You nailed it! Thanks – this article really hit home for me. So good – thanks for the support Fiona. Love your regular posts.
Thanks for the inspiration and support Fiona – much appreciated (and needed!!)
Pretty ballsy post! I like it – thanks for the tips Fiona :)
Thanks for the tips.
I found this article very helpful.
I also thought the related topics in the recommened reading section a helpful delight too!
My wife and I found aspects of this incredibly supportive. Thank you for the helpfulness in your articles, especially about staying positive… Because this fertility journey needs as much support and joy injected into it as possible.
Signing off in appreciation,
Rick & my Mrs
Love this article, it is definitely one of my favs. Thanks Fiona. Appreciate it.
I think I am ready to book my session with you now… I have so many things I want answers to and this article highlighted just where I am at with things (I think I have a lot to do/learn/change/embrace) :)
So, so, so, so, so, so, helpful :) Thank you.
This is definitely one of the best articles to help me on my fertility journey, your four recent ones listed here are too:
Thank you :)
I love this article!!!
This article is really inspiring and keeping me positive.
Thanks thanks thanks :)
Your tips are always so, so, so, so, so, so, so HELPFUL in this article and in your others, Thank youuuuuu :D
Positivity also helps. There really is no harm in trying. I love your positive videos on Youtube, they have helped me keep my mood high. I like your recent one : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_9EFFukJMdc