What’s your fertility “New Year’s Resolution”?
Do you not have a fertility new year’s resolution anymore because it is too painful?
It’s natural that you don’t want to upset yourself.
Did you set a fertility resolution last year and hurt yourself because you did not achieve it, so don’t want to make another one this year?
… Or have you not thought to make one on fertility?
New Year’s resolutions are giving us the idea that we have a fresh start, we can have a “new me” with a new year.
We all know that getting things are not going to make us happy. Instead it is progress that makes us happy and for women, it is natural that our deep yearning to have children leads to us making the progressive steps to allow a baby to come into our life.
In doing so it forces you to look at:
Where you are right now, how you got here and what you need to do to change.
Only you can have the first two answers and I can help you with the third. My methods can help you make just a few lifestyle tweaks – that include more joy, spontaneity, control etc. that help you to govern the new positive outcome coming your way.
Take Back Control in Your Life
– Regain Control Over Your Fertility
Your New Year’s Resolution is about you making progress with conscious motherhood
It’s about you taking back the control, in the knowing that when you tweak a few habits and fuel new belief systems (that support your outcome of you holding YOUR baby by Xmas) then you are no longer leaving things to chance and hope… You are making it happen. Mindfully.
Don’t make your New Year’s Resolution your wish list, because that is NOT what it is.
…It is a list of resolutions.
What’s a RESOLUTION?
To have a resolution it means to resolve something… “To decide with certainty on a course of action.”
As a result, you have disconnected from any possibility: any actions, words, beliefs, people etc. that prevent you from achieving motherhood by Xmas.
When you make your resolution to have your baby by Xmas, you want to make the resolution INSPIRING, not one that focuses on lack.
- “I’m not going to drink alcohol” (which will mean life will be less fun – I will deprive myself of having a good time);
- “I’m going to lose weight to improve my fertility” (meaning I will have to go without when it comes to all the things I love… I am going to deprive myself of enjoyment of food);
- “I’m going to go to the gym everyday” (but it is such an effort! I will deprive myself of valuable sleep time)
Helpful Questions To Ask Yourself
- Where am I right now?
- What are the lifestyle elements that keep me here?
- What do I want – be specific with your creative visualisation?
- What are the rituals you need to do to get you there?
Will power doesn’t last but rituals do – so learn how to create lifestyle changes: live a fertile lifestyle and get faster fertility results.
What will it take to create lasting changes in your life that can boost your fertility?
Make New Year’s Resolution’s for Fertility Success
How do you create new year’s resolutions that work?
1st Step = Have a vision
– A vision of what it is you truly want – make it inspiring, eg: what does it look and feel like to be holding your baby? The dynamics of your new addition to your family?
Don’t have a “standard resolution” such as “I will not drink caffeine or alcohol, I will exercise more” etc because these focus on lack – on what you are not getting. Instead focus on your vision, the vision that brings you joy, abundance and happiness.
A VISION THAT WORKS IS ONE THAT REALLY EXCITES YOU
If you say my resolution, (my goal) is to lose a certain amount of weight it is not going to be compelling enough to PULL YOU… Because there are two types of motivation:
1 – where you need to push yourself, (which is an uphill battle that requires bucket loads of will power) or;
2 – one that excites you, attracts and motivates you to make the steps that get you the result you desire
This is why my “Fertile Lifestyle” Course works – it gets results because the journey is an enjoyable, supportive one.
When clients come to me they range from people who have just begun trying to those who have been trying for 10 years to no avail. Most of my clients have “unexplained infertility” and are just looking for extra help and support to get them on the right track to fall pregnant. Most are doing things 70% correctly and with a few tweaks I put them back on the path that gets faster fertility success.
This is why 80% of my clients fall pregnant and give birth to happy, healthy babies… I help turn them around from where they are to where they want to be!
A Good Analogy
Imagine a school of fish swimming down a river. The river begins to branch off toward the left but this has a dead end and the fish that swim to this section of the river get confused and don’t realise all they need to do is turn back for a few meters to where the river branches off and then continue on with the main flow of the river that meanders to the right. It is as simple as that.
So when we start work together there will be some familiar ground we shall re-tread together but in a different way that you are currently doing it, so I can help you get back on the right path. I can save you from staying where you are because no matter how hard you try you are only going to exhaust yourself because where you are is not going to lead you to the outcome you desire.
How do you know if you are a fish that has meandered left or right?
Have I been trying the following things for more than 6 months and not fallen pregnant:
– Have I changed my diet but still have not fallen pregnant?
You may not be getting the right amount of nutrients or be on the right supplements (check if they have soy, corn or magnesium stearate for these will NOT help fertility, despite being labelled as “fertility supplements” no matter how expensive they were or how credible the source that sold them to you seemed).
My Fertile Lifestyle course can help you manage the right amount of nutrients you are getting on a daily basis on a cost-effective and enjoyable way to consume them via a “Whole Food” and “SuperFood” fertility diet – that way you know it is bio-available. (This means your body can absorb the nutrients and not urinate them out, as with most fertility and pregnancy supplements saturating the world-wide market today).
– Have I improved my quality of sleep and still no fertility success?
Do you want to know how you can get a better night’s sleep? How you can do simple things like preparing your bedroom in a certain way so you can get a deep night’s sleep, helping your body to rest, rejuvenate and restore fertility?
If so, book your fertility consultation here
– Have I taken the right steps to manage my stress levels but still have not been able to “not stress about having a baby”
Don’t worry, this is normal. Unless you have invested in a course of brain training you probably wont know how to train your brain or how to turn stress and that feeling of WANT and LACK off.
Do you want to know how to do this? Let me help you because it will help you restore your energy and vitality so you feel energised and excited about your fertility journey, not drained. Click here
One of the key aspects of the course is clearing mental blockages and belief systems that are preventing you from falling pregnant. So you could be doing everything right, but unless you clear this block or series of blocks you just can’t seem to fall pregnant.
Clear Fertility Blockages
Blockages come about because of trauma you have experienced around fertility, and/or fears you have about pregnancy, miscarriage, birth, motherhood, your body’s ability to cope etc.
When my clients clear these blockages they feel so empowered, back in control of their fertility, they feel reassured and confident on their fertility journey so within weeks most will fall pregnant.
Have no fear, there is a huge support system on offer as part of our miscarriage support package within the Fertile Lifestyle course – so you are completely taken care of each step of the way.
Many of us schedule our every move, and then obsess over sticking to the plan. Few people allow room to improvise or to simply be still.
Learning to be mindful – putting your attention on the present, rather than thinking about the past or planning for the future – can:
- Relieve stress
- Improve sleep
- Lower blood pressure
- Improve overall well-being
ANYTHING THAT IMPROVES WELLBEING IMPROVES FERTILITY
– Most people struggle to fall pregnant because of the amount of toxic exposure they get. Governments allow a certain “low level” of toxicity in our household products, beauty products, body washing products, cleaning products… But these toxins are ACCUMULATIVE.
Find out how you can avoid smothering yourself in toxins, drinking toxins, cleaning your teeth with toxins and how to manage toxic relationships.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT because toxic exposure on all levels (physical, mental and emotional) influences your epigenetics. What does this mean? It affects how fertile your body is as well as the quality of eggs and sperm.
If you want to give your baby the best chance in life, you need to cultivate an OPTIMAL fertile lifestyle for three months prior to conceiving because your eggs (your baby’s genetic coding) are being formed three months prior to conception.
– Are you doing the right exercise for fertility?
The first questions you need to check in with yourself are:
- Do I enjoy it? (This is essential!)… It can’t be a chore
- Is it low intensity (This is important because you want to be doing the same exercise when you are pregnant so there is minimal transitional change for your body)
- Do not exercise in a hot room – this hinders fertility
2nd Step = Feel it
Feel it so deeply that it feels real (watch the video above for tips and techniques)
3rd Step = Let it Go
Let it go and enjoy your new fertile lifestyle filled with excitement and decisions that make you happy. This will raise your vibration and energy levels to help improve wellbeing and fertility
If you want more fertility questions answered and want to know you are on the RIGHT path to conscious motherhood then get in touch today – you don’t have time to lose. Help and support is around the corner, click here
Let this year be the best year of your life, the year you conceive and within 9 months give birth to a happy, healthy baby.
Visualise it, feel it, let it go, enjoy life, create it, live it!
My Fertile Lifestyle course has helped people all over the world with Skype based sessions so there is no reason why it can’t help you too.
About the author:
Fiona Boulton is a Fertility Specialist
(An expert in her field since 2007) and leader in Fertility Mind Mastery, Fertility Meditation, Fertility Yoga and Fertility Coaching –
helping people take back control of their fertility, faster.
Fiona is the founder of Awakening Fertility – Harley Street (Harley Street Fertility Clinic), London; Concept Fertility Putney; Chichester, West Sussex and Perth, Australia
- Huffington Post Fertility Writer
- Fertility Coach
- Fertility Support Group Co-ordinator for Harley Street Fertility Clinic and Infertility Network UK
- Nutrition Counsellor
- Public Speaker
- QiYoga® Founder
- Fertility Yoga Teacher Trainer (RYS 200)
- Fertile Lifestyle Motivator
- Fertility Support Group Facilitator
- Fertility Practitioner Training Co-ordinator
Through Fiona’s “transformation guaranteed” Fertile Lifestyle courses, Fiona helps navigate major transitions to detox your mind and body to help you effectively ‘think yourself fertile’; to change the map your mind has of your body and therefore change your physiology by clearing mental and emotional blockages to having your baby. Fiona’s work focuses on you taking back control by changing the internal and external environment of your cells so you can improve chances of fertility success.
Book your fertility consultation from the comfort of your home or come to the Harley Street Fertility Clinic for a transformative session with Awakening Fertility founder Fiona Boulton, here.
Keep watching the video, and everytime I do I pick up something new.
I am looking fwd to starting the fertile lifestyle course with you in May :)
This has been helpful for me – I watch the video every week as a reminder of how to stay on track. I have signed up for your next retreat and look forward to meeting and working with you then!
Shared it amoungst my other TTC friends and we all enjoyed your tips :)
Thank you for the positive feedback – glad your friends trying to conceive enjoyed this motivational post with lots of tips and techniques for fertility facilitation :)
I keep coming back to this article (and video!) Although you pitched it for “New Year New You” as a new year’s resolution I find it such a helpful reminder on how to keep living a fertile lifestyle. Like you say, 90% right does not get results.
I wonder if the first poersn struggled with some sort of infertility or it took her a long time herself. I’ve found myself asking a similar question out of genuine curiosity, because I forget that it doesn’t always take years and years to get pregnant. The other two? Yeahhh . . . I have no excuses. lol
I agree – this is a “life line” this article. Helps me to keep empowered whilst TTC coz I know I am ticking all the boxes :)
There is evidence that there is NO sicnifigant effect either way. You may be interested in reading the abstract of a study cited below. From it: “The hyperthermic effect of brief style underwear has been exaggerated. In our study there was no difference in scrotal temperature depending on underwear type. It is unlikely that underwear type has a sicnifigant effect on male fertility. Routinely advising infertility patients to wear boxer shorts cannot be supported by available scientific evidence.”That is, underwear did not have a sicnifigant effect on temperature of the scrotum and therefore should not effect the fertility of the wearer.
Thanks for this article. The video is invaluable for sure!
I like the helpful info you provide in your articles.
I am quite certain I’ll learn many new stuff right here!
Looking forward to reading the next article!