Calling in THE ONE

Most of my clients are female and many of them are either wanting to:

1. Rekindle their current relationship or;
2. Search for the love of their life, their soul mate…

Is this you too?

 

The key to manifesting ANYTHING in life is to move out of “wanting” and “desperation” into a sense of “knowing.” For this reason, watch your thoughts, your language and your feelings.

When you find yourself saying you desperately want to meet the one or desperately want your relationship to improve… Snap out of that needy state and into one of peaceful content in the “knowing” that you are open for more joy to flow through you and to you. Remember to be crystal clear about what that exact form of joy is to you.

Relationships are a great way to help you see how open you are; how much work you have done on yourself and how much you still need to do. I find whatever you really want from a relationship is the one thing you need to give. So if you are looking for your partner to support you, you will ultimately be the one that supports them.

Your fertility journey followed by ‘sleep deprived’ early parenthood days are probably the most extreme roller coaster of emotions you are yet to experience. Whether you are longing for your ‘soul mate’ or ‘Mr Right’  or want your relationship to improve, then this page will hopefully offer you some help.

In addition to learning how to master the art of not letting others ‘press your buttons’ or upset you (as taught as part of my Fertile Lifestyle Course), I find music can snap you out of “I am right” mode or; “I deserve better” mode or “Where is the man of my dreams?” mode and into one of empowerment.

Some of us are born with a deep relationship to music; I am one of these people. For me, music can change my mood instantly and truly is a panacea for all life’s ups and downs.

For that reason, I have created this interactive page for you to listen to some music or share music that has helped you out of any funk and into a state of happiness. Alternatively it can feel great to have someone else putting into words the same heart-felt emotions you are going through by sharing mutual suffering and woundings with someone else’s lyrics.

Below are songs that have moved me and helped me with seeking and keeping the love of my life. Before you listen to them and read their lyrics, you might want to know more about me and where I am coming from. If not, just skip this next section and begin listening to the range of eclectic tunes or add your own (via the comment sections below) to help others! Let’s make this interactive :)

The magnetic glow of two hearts and two minds intertwined on every level

My Story – Looking For Mr Right

For those who are not aware, until I met my husband in 2010 I had always been actively looking for “the one.” Every night club, pub, cafe, party, supermarket, department store, train ride and even petrol station I went to as a teen through to the age of 30 I was on the prowl looking for Mr Right. I had the constant yearning as expressed in my goggle-eyed intensive gaze trying to making eye contact with the one who was to be my future husband.

I searched actively for 12 long years. There were other lovers and boyfriends, even a fiancee during that phase in my life but whenever I’d ask friends and family:

How do you know when you are with “the one”?

They’d all reply, “You just know.” I figured I didn’t know so I mustn’t be with “the one.”

… So I kept searching…

I spoke with clairvoyants and healers but it was not until I wrote a specific three page list of the qualities and attributes of my ideal man did it actually eventuate. In saying that, I had to actively crush any of the ever increasing thoughts that arose such as ‘but what if I never find anyone?’ ‘All the best guys are already taken’ ‘What if I’m going to be single when Im an old lady?‘

When I squashed these thoughts I’d replace them with what I felt in my heart of hearts… That I would meet him at my yoga studio (where I worked seven days and nights a week) and that I’ll meet him by the age of 30.

Boom!

That is what happened.

When we met and he smiled at me I could see this incredible glow of light beaming from his eyes and his smile. I heard in my head the words “This is the one. He is the one. It is my turn now!”

… I just knew from that moment on. My body knew too, it reacted so intensely on every level, as if every energy centre in my body ignited one at a time. I was pulsating in the flow of ecstasy.

I know what it is like to long for someone or something and to not feel complete until you get it… But the trick is to feel happy and complete as well as peaceful and content in the knowing that it will come and you have the birth rite to experience all the joy life has to offer.

As the years went by I had to actively control the negative thoughts that would creep in (as mentioned above) and keep believing it was going to happen to me. And it did.

For me, I met more than my soul mate, I met my twin flame. A twin flame is someone that helps you to be the best version of yourself, not by making life easy, but by giving you the opportunity to open your vulnerable heart and to let love flow to and from you, no matter how hurt and protective you are of being hurt again. Being with my twin flame helped me work through all my fears – on every level – and to help me pass on my wisdom to my clients, friends and family.  (However, my clients listen to me more than my friends and family do! But isn’t that always the way!?)

Dancing with my soulmate, my best friend and twin flame at our engagement party

“I never gave up, because I just knew in my core that I’d meet and marry my soul mate, despite the negative voices in my head telling me otherwise.”

Searching for “The One” Knowing You Have So Much Love to Give

“I’ve been saving my loving” – When you are waiting for the one to share your Biiiig amounts of love with, you feel so happy and want to dance all night knowing how joyous the moment will be when you are together! (It’s an energising thought!)

Big Love by Pete Heller

Big Love Lyrics

I been savin’ by lovin’

In Search For The Love of Your Life, Your Soul Mate

A great song about waiting for the one to dive on in and make the first step toward a life-long relationship with you…

Nightswim by Owl Eyes

Nightswim Lyrics

I saw you in your bathing suit
Arms arched high
While I’m swimming on the outskirts
Hoping you won’t take your time

Nightswim
I’m waiting for you
Jump in
It’s colder when you’re
Out there
Still waiting on the first step

Counting seconds in the days
Pass the hours back in time
Holding out on my front porch
Just for you to ride along

Nightswim
I’m waiting for you
Jump in
It’s colder when you’re
Out there
Still waiting on the first step

(x2)
Take my hand
Swim to me
Say this nightswim
Will last for an eternity

Ooh, Ooh, Ooh
Ooooh
Ooh, Ooh, Ooh
Ooooh

(x3)
Nightswim
I’m waiting for you
Jump in
It’s colder when you’re
Out there
Still waiting on the first step

MAPS by The Yeah Yeah Yeahs

When you are navigating for “the one” with your invisible map, the best way to bring them into your life is to “magnetise” yourself with love. Let the vibration of love overflow out of your like a powerful waterfall cascading through your expansive energy field. Your subtle energy field will be like a beacon visible on an unconscious level to “the one” or your “soul mate” or even your “twin flame.”

This is why I like this song, it keeps that love outpouring and flowing allowing your feminine energy to draw him to you.

Maps Lyrics

Keep on Running by Andy Bull

This song doesn’t need my interpretation… For those in a relationship or a past relationship…

Keep on Running Lyrics

I’ll swim in a sea of approval, I will,
For a panacea, a surety, my insecurity calling for more than a thrill,
But surely a man doesn’t bend to a will,
But you bend and you break and you mend
and you tell all your friends in a song that it’s wrong and you’re ill

I tried so hard it isn’t funny
Tell me how I, how I should have done it
And I keep on looking
Will you tell me something
How long do I have to keep on running, running?

Can I keep on running?

A memory taken each day like a pill
The mark on the wall that you kick when you fight in the dead of the night ’til the voices are still,
I’ll swim in a sea of approval I think,
Until when they bury me finally you can see maybe a time when a swimmer will sink

I tried so hard it isn’t funny
Tell me how I, how I should have done it
And I keep on looking
Will you tell me something
How long do I have to keep on running, running

Can I keep on running
Can I keep on running
Can I keep on running
Can I keep on running running?

I’ll swim in a sea of approval i will
Can I keep on running
I’ll swim in a sea of approval i will
Can I keep on running

I tried so hard it isn’t funny
Tell me how I should have done it
I keep looking
Tell me something
How long do I
Have to keep on running running?

I tried so hard it
Isn’t funny
Tell me how I should have done it
I keep looking
Tell me something
How long do I
Have to keep on running?

I’ll swim in a see of approval I will/ Can I keep on running ?
I’ll swim in a sea of approval I will/ Can I keep on running ?
I’ll swim in a see of approval I will/ Can I keep on running ?
I’ll swim in a sea of approval I will/ Can I keep on running running?

About the author:

Fiona Boulton is a Fertility Specialist
(An expert in her field since 2007) and leader in Fertility Mind Mastery, Fertility Meditation, Fertility Yoga and Fertility Coaching –

helping people take back control of their fertility, faster.

Fiona is the founder of Awakening Fertility – Harley Street (Harley Street Fertility Clinic), London; Concept Fertility Putney; Chichester, West Sussex and Perth, Australia

• Huffington Post Fertility Writer
• Fertility Coach
• Fertility Support Group Co-ordinator for Harley Street Fertility Clinic and Infertility Network UK
• Nutrition Counsellor
• Public Speaker
• Author
• Blogger
• QiYoga® Founder
• Fertility Yoga Teacher Trainer (RYS 200)
• Fertile Lifestyle Motivator
• Fertility Support Group Facilitator
• Fertility Practitioner Training Co-ordinator

Through Fiona’s “transformation guaranteed” Fertile Lifestyle courses, Fiona helps navigate major transitions to detox your mind and body to help you effectively ‘think yourself fertile’; to change the map your mind has of your body and therefore change your physiology by clearing mental and emotional blockages to having your baby. Fiona’s work focuses on you taking back control by changing the internal and external environment of your cells so you can improve chances of fertility success.

Book your fertility consultation from the comfort of your home or come to the Harley Street Fertility Clinic for a transformative session with Awakening Fertility founder Fiona Boulton, here.

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